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I have another story about everyday justice that I want to share. 

As a practice, for each full or new moon I like to pick a few tarot cards to show me what might come up during the two-week cycle. Last week I picked "Breakthrough" (which is the Justice card in other decks) and wondered what that meant. 

Two days later, I heard from my old landlords that they wanted to deduct almost half of my security deposit to replace the carpeting, which was stained and old when I moved in. I got incredibly triggered, feeling so angry for this injustice and also so avoidant of wanting to do anything about it. I just wanted to hide and have it magically right itself. 

That night I said the Serenity Prayer. I thought of what I could not change - my landlords integrity and actions - and what I could change - asking for help and being direct in how I responded to them. 

The next day, I called my lawyer brother and together, we crafted a well-researched email about why their plan wouldn't hold up legally. I sent it and when I received their response showing me the stains I had caused (the ones that were there when I moved in), simply reiterated my position and promised them I would follow it through until the end. 

I was surprised that I felt empowered instead of angry. There wasn't an ounce of victim energy in me. Later that night, they told me they would give me my whole deposit back. Justice was served! 

After watching the heart-breaking violence that occurred this weekend it occurred to me that we all need this feeling of justice. 

Can we stand strong in our righteousness and directness, even when we want to hide from confrontation? Can we accept that we may never change others but we can use their example to become more alive and integrated as human beings? 

I think these questions are crucial as we move forward into this next generation of tolerance and justice that all of us so deeply deserve.