Here’s a roasting pan full of squash, onions, garlic, pears and ginger. Once roasted, just purée these veggies with broth and make yourself a sweet/savory winter soup. (Recipe courtesy of Sarah Waybright ay WhyFoodWorks).
Micah and I have been needing extra comfort this week because we’ve started sleep training with Jonah. Since the beginning of the year, no one has been sleeping well. (For those who haven’t raised a newborn, there’s a sleep regression at around four months - just as everyone is going back to work. It’s really tough.)
After a few weeks of being up all night, I know something needed to change. We did a bit of research, mostly asking our friends who are raising awesome kids. Pretty much across the board, with even some of our crunchiest friends, we heard that you gotta let them cry it out so they can learn to put themselves to sleep.
I know this method can be very controversial. I’m nervous to even write about it here, lest I seem like a heartless mom. But no one told me another method that actually brought sleep and sanity to a household.
So, this weekend, we steeled ourselves for tears. And there were some. He did resist a nap for a whole hour and I cried along with him after a while. But that night, he was asleep in less than five minutes although he fussed throughout the night. The next night, he cried for 40 minutes before settling down and slept pretty soundly after. Last night, he fell asleep immediately and other than waking twice to eat, stayed asleep.
It’ll probably take another week or so, but we are all learning this new pattern.
I won’t lie, it pushes me to my edge to see Jonah even slightly upset. I want to save him, I want to save everyone. But I’ve learned in my own healing that often this instinct does more harm than help. My job is to take care of myself and when appropriate, let others take care of themselves.
This is a very big step in that direction for our family. It’s a tearful victory, but one that I think will continue to serve us.