Hello lovelies! Exciting book news coming next week. In the meantime - in my ever-present search to define self-care - I wanted to share my latest definition. Today, self-care is a shift…
...from feeling like you’ll never get everything done to realizing you’re allowed to do just one thing at a time (and take breaks in the process).
...from the desire to go on restrictive diets (or other ways of clamping down on your compulsions) to the desire to eat in a normal, sane way while exploring the roots of your compulsions with tenderness and support.
...from feeling like practicing your self-care routines will make you a boring person to understanding that your routines are a gift you give to yourself.
...from saying that you’ll take care of yourself once your to-do list is done to caring for yourself whenever you feel sad, tired, lonely, or otherwise depleted.
...from living from a place of obligation (all those “shoulds” and “have tos”) to living from a place of opportunity (the “get tos” and “want tos”).
...from feeling overextended because you’re afraid of disappointing others to consistently saying the word “no” with love, and seeing how it brings relief to yourself and others.
...from frantically rushing around, wolfing down meals without tasting them and leaving the house like a tornado to mindfully moving through your life, savoring your food and getting calmly into your car each morning.
...from mercilessly beating yourself up over simple mistakes to giving yourself grace for being a human being who is doing the best she can.
...from seeing vulnerability as weakness to understanding real strength happens in the moments you can fall apart and allow yourself to be supported in the breakdown (or breakthrough!).
...from thinking you have to do everything yourself, beloved martyr you, to realizing that you can ask for help, collaborate and enjoy the process.
...from shutting down your creative desires as being unrealistic to exploring them slowly, steadily and with childish glee.
...from meeting your reflection in the mirror with judgment (“The pounds, wrinkles and problem features!”) to saying a real “thank you” to your body for steadfastly carrying you through this lifetime.
...from spending most of your energy trying to keep up an image of having it “together” to spending most of your energy caring for yourself and your loved ones, during your moments of togetherness and your moments of falling apart.
...from believing that voice that keeps whispering “you’re alone in this world” to seeing the myriad ways you get to connect to the people you’re with every day.
...from feeling lost in your own suffering to realizing you can be of service to others who are also suffering ( this service is what truly sets you free).